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Being a pastor gives you a unique lens -- being a female pastor who doesn't fit the mold gives you a REALLY unique lens. Here are some thoughts as I try and understand the world around me through that lens.

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… But not too much

September 29, 2016

I can’t remember exactly when my deep fear of being “Too Much” started, but I remember it was young. I started counting the number of times I answered a question in elementary school. I wanted to make sure that I answered just enough questions that my teacher knew I understood and that I was bright, […]

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God the Mother

May 6, 2015

“I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.” – Abraham Lincoln I once watched a woman in my small group leave a church service with a look of devastation. Sometimes people forget that the clergy in the front of the church can see what […]

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50 Shades of Grace- The Clothes don’t make the Woman

April 29, 2015

With all the strange ethos that surround sexuality and dating in Christian culture, it’s no wonder that people don’t know what to do with the idea that I could be a gendered sexual being. I have met many women clergy who, after taking this job and working for several years, began to look less and […]

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50 Shades of Grace- Is Jezebel to blame?

April 23, 2015

  I was holding a fitness magazine in line at a grocery store when a lady from my church surprised me. We chatted for several minutes, and it wasn’t until I left the store that I noticed the headline across the top of my women’s fitness magazine was one of those ‘how to please your man’ topics. […]

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50 Shades of Grace- the awkward sexuality of a Pastor

April 15, 2015

  The other day I sat across from two young men who were questioning a lot about faith and church. We decided to go grab coffee and had great conversations that jumped all over the place. Eventually it got quiet and one said, “this is going to embarrass my buddy, but do you date?” Now […]

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You can’t be Han Solo; you’re a GIRL!!!

November 5, 2014

“You can’t be Han Solo you’re a girl!” this one sentence changed my life. It also started a bit of a wrestling match between 4 year old me and my best guy friend. I ran into the house covered in tears. Life would never be the same. As I sat with my mom she explained […]

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